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*The 90/10 Principle*
-Author: Stephen Covey
Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life(at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided byhow you react. What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stopthe car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throwsour whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have nocontrol over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determinethe other90%.
How? By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light., but you can control your reaction. Don'tlet people fool you; YOU can control how you react. Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cupof coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what justhappened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks downin tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her forplacing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battlefollows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, youfind your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and getready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediatelyfor work.
You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you arelate, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minutedelay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Yourdaughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving atthe office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase.Your day hasstarted terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. Youlook forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge inyour relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is " D".
You had no control over what happened with the coffee.How you reacted inthose 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say,"It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time".Grabbing atowel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, youcome back down in time to look through the window and see your childgetting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early andcheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you arehaving.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.Why?
Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let theattack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negativecomment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrongreaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose yourtemper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steeringwheel fall off. Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do youtry and bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruinyour drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. Theplane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day.Why take outyour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why getstressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at theresults. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle isincredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions ofpeople are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems andheartache.We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
It CAN change your life!!!
*The 90/10 Principle*
-Author: Stephen Covey
Discover the 90/10 Principle. It will change your life(at least the way you react to situations). What is this principle?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided byhow you react. What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stopthe car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throwsour whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We have nocontrol over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determinethe other90%.
How? By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light., but you can control your reaction. Don'tlet people fool you; YOU can control how you react. Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cupof coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what justhappened. What happens next will be determined by how you react. You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks downin tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her forplacing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battlefollows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, youfind your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and getready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediatelyfor work.
You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you arelate, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minutedelay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Yourdaughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving atthe office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase.Your day hasstarted terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. Youlook forward to coming home, When you arrive home, you find small wedge inyour relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is " D".
You had no control over what happened with the coffee.How you reacted inthose 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say,"It's ok honey, you just need, to be more careful next time".Grabbing atowel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, youcome back down in time to look through the window and see your childgetting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early andcheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you arehaving.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.Why?
Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle.
If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let theattack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negativecomment affect you! React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrongreaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose yourtemper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steeringwheel fall off. Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do youtry and bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruinyour drive? Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job. Theplane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day.Why take outyour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why getstressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at theresults. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle isincredible. Very few know and apply this principle. The result? Millions ofpeople are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems andheartache.We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
It CAN change your life!!!
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